Monday, October 17, 2005

fear.

fear. we are born with a fear of loud noises and a fear of falling. everything else is learned.
we have learned to be afraid of everything but loud noises and falling.
that means everything we are afraid of is created in our heads without direct stimulation. reaction to direct stimulation is isn`t fear. it`s a reaction. the memory of a reaction can become a fear though.
so what do we do about all the fear going on?
look at where we get it from.
t.v. , newspapers, government, unfounded beliefs of others, outright lies meant to manipulate, accidental imprints(rare) and assumptions we make that can become accepted as fact about threats.
once we understand the delivery system for fears then we can begin to edit the process.
stop watching t.v. and reading newspapers.
when someone makes a fear-inducing statement, challenge the statement. this includes government.
avoid outright liars.
how do you tell a liar? accept all statements from a human as factual until they are proven wrong. if a person persists making erroneous statements..........edit them.
the most difficult area of fear delivery is the erronious ideas we use to run our lives. these pre-suppositions can be hard to detect and therefore hardest to change.
watch the language you use to describe your reality. it is obvious in others. some people are positive, others negative. which are you?
editing your own language can be the most effective means of eradicating fear from our lives.
we talk ourselves in and out of our lives.
why choose to nag the shit out of yourself and create rotten outcomes?
just habit. though so.
choose the happy, irrational optimism. i know you will like it. i`m positive.
if your internal nag won`t stop, tell it to shut the fuck up, laugh and choose a positive outcome.
fear can`t survive without willing participants.

6 comments:

Dr.Alistair said...

giving the situation time to heal is the only way these things are dealt with. your only concern is how to deal with your own internal dialog in the meantime. you are learning to be able to take control of your internal processes so that you can be at peace. that`s all we can ever ask for in any of our experiences.
when we are watching t.v. and we don`t like the programme, we change the channel. when we don`t enjoy the emotions that we are experiencing,if we learn to change channels in our mind the same will be true in life.

Dr.Alistair said...

and there is no carpet, in your mind, under which you can sweep issues unless you decide to. this is called denial. you`re not doing that.

Dr.Alistair said...

any time we are thinking of things, we are programming. that`s the nature of our mind. to control the process is to take control of the programming.
why not make it enjoyable?

Dr.Alistair said...

don`t rush the process......just know that this stuff goes in deeply into the cells of our body and soon it will begin to come out in our actions in the world. the first time you catch yourself you will laugh out loud.

Dr.Alistair said...

an i mean that most sincerely. you will catch yourself..........and it will make you laugh. it is a most indescribable and wonderful sensation.......knowing that you love yourself unconditionally.
it is like training to ride a bicycle or martial arts or kicking a soccer ball. you struggle and fail and get frustrated and quit and go back and try again, over and over......and then,one day, without any effort whatsoever, bang. the ball flys into the net.....and you wonder how you did it,because it felt so different from the struggling and forcing the issue and failing.
just like life.
people say "there has to be another way". and they`re right. the thing is they have no clue as to how to do "another way", there is no book to read, or "another way for dummies"......
but there is that quiet voice, deep inside, if you learn to listen.

Dr.Alistair said...

find the place inside that you know you have that love for yourself. be true to your unconditional love for yourself and know that through the practice that you are learning that you can free yourself of the obligation of the past an dthe pain associated with it.