i`d like to dedicate this to ms.q.
that means without conditions.
like...all the time.
that`s how i set out to write this blog some years ago when i realised the relationship with the mother of my children was falling apart.
and how i realised that i could love myself.
loving and supporting.
because i knew truths about myself that were good and bad. and accepted that i`d got this far in this state and that i could experience love and devotion....i learned this through becoming a father........and that the world that i didn`t want to bring children into for most of my adult life had this ability to be ok once i began to accept and love myself unconditionally.
so it all comes back to this; once we find a way to unconditionally love ourselves, then others are left to face thier own decisions about themselves (or not....) and our lives change.
we stop putting ourselves in situations that are uncomfortable, or worse...and we put less obligation on others, and let them do thier thing and accept that too.
meeting others expectations a challenge?
and sit back and watch the damage that expectations can cause....and just accept and love yourself.
others can then choose to do that too.
and you will be suprised at who comes and who goes from your life.
i feel like preaching a bit this afternoon so forgive me, or not, as i type away about what i feel is the most important practice we can take up on our journey through whatever it is we are journeying through in our conscious awareness.
oh yeah, and be prepared for the consquences of such a self-indulgent act. some will get hostile when you refuse to feed thier disagreement.
one of the first challenges i met in blogging was the power of disagreement.
people would openly challenge my posts and comments with all manner of comments in return, that, if we had been face-to-face, would have been too confrontational.
it took some adjustment on my part and a new-found confidence in my position to continue on typing and posting....to the point where i discovered that i really did love, not only myself, but how i said what i said.
and so i come full circle to begining to post once again about the unconditional love for the self.
also called not taking shit.
try it for a day or two and watch eyebrows fly.