we find ourselves in that familiar position of wanting to talk to that attractive person we see in a bar or at the local coffee shop and we go inside our head and have thoughts.......
you know what happens then don`t you?
you manage to get scared half to death.
how did you do that?
i know how you did it. you ran a rejection scenario that went something like, um, "she will think i`m an idiot", or " i`m definitely not her type....."
whereas she`s hoping someone will come along and have a nice chat with her about something.
so look at her.
what is she doing?
what is she wearing?
how about those great shoes?
is there something that she`s doing or wearing or behaving like that reminds you of something that you can talk about for the ten seconds it will take for you to calm down nough to act like a normal person around her?
because if there is, then you have a 99% better chance of talking to her than by feeling like shit and then making her feel uncomfortable by trying to talk to her.
and do you know how desperate she is for someone to talk to her?
about the same as you..........