over time one realises that it is important to like what you see in the mirror.
i have written extensively here about unconditional love for the self and recieved criticism for my postion........but i will say that,over time, my unconditional love for myself has been what has got me past the bumps in the road.
over time one takes solice and great comfort in the image one sees in the mirror and confidence that the image one sees can be trusted and relied upon.
and that`s far better than some "self-esteem" created by popular psychology without any means toward getting it, or even defining the concept...........
so how does one get there?
it starts with a belief that it is possible to attain an absolute trust in the self.
no more lies or cheating or betrayal.
acceptance without judgement.
and hard work.
which we all do anyway without any real reward.
so the only new thing is including your own value for yourself and the integrity to claim it at every turn.
oh yeah, and one other thing.........