Thursday, April 26, 2007


i just realised something in conversation with a friend.

i can`t forgive.

i have no place or position to forgive.

it is only ego that forgives.

it is only ego that wishes to forgive.

i just accept.


Ricardo said...

Do you really think it's that futile of a gesture? I think there may be more to it.

dr.alistair said...

it goes back to the dogmatic idea of conscience.

our responsibility for the wellbeing of others.

we see forgiveness as a graceful state that we can bestow upon others out of judgement.

i don`t have the right to claim the consciousness of another by way of a judgement.......even in the positive.

the strokes we all need so badly come from a position of equal footing.

not one of subjugation.

to forgive misses the point entirely.

if i thought someone dd something to me deliberately to harm me, then nothing i could do or say would change my attitude toward them anyway.

if it was an accident, then they don`t need my forgiveness.

i will tell them i understand.

they can get over it themselves.

Cynnie said...

i dont think its so much forgiveness as just letting it go ..

and yeah, telling the person you forgive them sometimes just makes them feel guiltier..
and forgiving someone who doesnt feel guilty ..its just for you..right ?

eh life..
its a pain in the ass

Anonymous said...

forgiving can be difficult when you are wronged by someone. I have difficulties with this also. I think if you're trying to have peace within,as most of us are striving for then you need to put the anger or whatever you feel in a place so it doesn't eat you up inside because if you don't it will. Don't fool yourself by thinking it won't. You don't have to forget but put it in a place and move on! you are worth it, we all are . There is such a thing called carma, every dog has his day!

dr.alistair said...

dog day is today.....

on the soccer field.