so you have a situation where things bring you pleasure for a while..........then intense pain. gambling for example or shopping or chasing unavailable women. at first you get the pleasure. playing slots or cards, buying yourself things or sitting and talking with a girl who stares deep into your eyes as you talk to her then flirts with you via e-mail late at night.................
then the pain comes.
you lose your money at the casino. your visa card payment comes, and worst of all, your e-mail inbox is empty.
what do you do?
you realise you can never go back to the casino, or spend indiscriminently and stop checking your e-mail or thinking of clever things to compose in another e-mail to send the first one that didn`t get answered or call her on her cell phone.
you just have to ride out the pain no matter how much it hurts. cold turkey. never again.
and don`t go to starbucks on tuesday night when you know she`ll be glad to talk to you until midnight and stare into your eyes like that.
and why not you say?
because as much as you think it feels so good to be near her, you love yourself unconditionally and would not put yourself in this position again............because it will kill you.