nobody wants to be seen as selfish, yet we all are. i imagine that it is necessary to be selfish to survive. as an individual we can be selfish because we are only responsible for ourselves. this becomes difficult when we are in contact and have relationships with others. the idea of selfishness then becomes seen as mercinary and destructive to the group.
but selfish we remain.
there is something inside all of us that says, me first, and there is a big part inside all of us that nods in agreement.
so how do we reconcile this paradox inside?
we need to understand that co-operation in groups will gain us the best outcome personally.
if we take everything available and leave nothing for anyone else, we have jeopardised the group and this will adversely effect us personally in the near future. if we are antagonistic and competitive we further alienate ourselves and risk future help and resourses at a later time.
i am making a distinction between selfish and greedy here. greedy is the destructive, narrow-minded grab for everything, whereas selfish is an intelligent strategy for optimum personal benifit.
so selfish we remain but greedy at our peril.
co-operation is an investment in our personal survival. we give of our time and resourses as an investment, not with an eye to immediate and measurable return, but with the confidence that, in the medium term, there will be a balance of most benifit personally.