have you ever noticed that when someone encourages or compliments you thier tone of voice is totally different from those who criticise?
is the tone of voice you hear in your head critical or encouraging?
you realise now that you have a choice.
you can go inside and speak to yourself in the most positive, encouraging tone and make your next experience one of excitement and anticipation.
still aren`t concinced?
try talking yourself into it.
"come on. you can do it. you`ve done it before. go get after it. you are the one. yeah baby"
it may sound silly at first but there is someone talking to himself right now and he doesn`t feel silly.
he`s too busy planning to win.