the universe in your mind is made up of a number of elements. sights, sounds, smells, tastes and sensations that relate to the body. these elements are entirely within your control, even though it seems that these elements appear and effect you as if you are powerless at times, this is because of a lifetime of passively sitting back and just watching the show.
we are raised in the belief that things happen to us and we are seperate from the rest of the universe. this concept is a judeo-christian construct that has formed us into mere observers 0f our lives. there are other ways of thinking that include us in the wonder of existance. a person thinking this way doesn`t ask where we come from. they already know.
as you realise that you are in control and can decide what you think, see, hear, taste, smell and feel in your mind and you start to actively do these things out of confidence you will begin to feel included. needed. involved. loved.