a girl meets a boy and they date a few times. i ask her what her new boyfriend is like.......is he this, that or the other thing. you know, just casual questions about nothing in particular and then i realise that she is putting conditions in every response that i`m getting.
"oh, we`ll see", etc.
she is saying that she hasn`t made her mind up about whether this guy is going to measure up to her expectations for the future.
she is setting herself up for a series of disappointments that she is incapable of taking responsibility for in the future.
his inability to measure up will become his fault.
how did we all get to this point where we are sabotaging our happiness and we are totally unaware of the fact that we are doing it to ourselves?
i can hear how a person can rationalise all of this in thier mind about how a person is going to be this, that or the other thing in the future, but if you think for a moment you will realise that you can`t measure up to that either..................nobody can predict the future. so why put undue pressure on yourself and others to do the impossible so you can be happy.
here is the equation in a.i. terms. (artificial intelligence.)
if; impossible happens,
then; happiness happens.
in a.i. the programming, sequences are made up of strings of if/then commands.
like if you go forward and hit an obstacle , then turn 90 degrees left.
these command strings become infinitely long in the software of something like a flight simulator or x-box game or sattelite guidance system.....or the human brain.
if a software program had a command line in it that was as buggy as the one i wrote out above then the program would make the device fail.
that`s why i know that putting your hopes for happiness on the impossible is a recipe for disaster.