to clarify what is meant by unconditional love it is useful to explore the meaning of the opposite. conditional love is a situation whereby some action has to be performed before the love is provided, or there that is an ongoing expectation of some action or state to exist or be provided for the love to exist or be provided. this is the description of what most people experience in relationships, with others or with themselves. it may come as a surprise to realise that this is true until you begin to look for situations where unconditional love exists.
where do you find unconditional love?
one would expect to find this state in newlyweds or between mothers and thier children or between old friends, but one finds that even these relationships evolve around the performance of accomplishments, standards and compliance. these are the types of conditions that are familiar to most in contract law and not in loving states........so why do they occur?
because we live in a reality created by and for the bureaucrat that has infected the very essense of our language and culture. it has fragmented the consciousness of society and divided our spiritual developement, setting us against ourselves and eachother.
it is the bureaucratisation of our psyches.
we are conditioned to polarise our very core nature into believing that we are playing catchup with everyone else for the prize of being the best.........so we can win the prize of being loved.
babies have to grow up to be lawyers and doctors to make thier mothers be proud.
a husband has to get raises at work to be a good man.
a friend has to agree with your rambling..................
realising that this is all a game is the first step to re-integrating the self back to wholeness. to unconditional love. only then can we get off everyone else`s case about who did what to who and why it matters.
resist the urge.
stop making contracts with your emotions.
stop withholding love until such time as something happens to make things better. they are as good as they are ever going to get right now.
isn`t that good enough?