Friday, March 31, 2006

consensus reality.

o.k., so everyone agrees that a certain thing is real. i will use the example of comets being ice balls filled with dirt as an example. everyone, from little kids to grandmas, says this is true. does the fact that everyone agrees that a thing is a certain way make it so?
well, that`s how we come to know our reality. by the amount of people who agree the things are the way they are. truths or facts are supported by the volume of people who say comets are dirty snowballs flying through space.
before science, we had religious truth, before religions we had mystical truth. now we have all of those things operating together, along with legal thruth, political truth, journalistic truth, athletic truth , siritual truth, superstitious truth, etc. the list goes on.
which truth do you subscribe to?
the arguements and disagreements that we get caught in tend to be that we aren`t defining which truth we are using and against which truth we are debating. to clarify that position would dissipate a fair majority of arguements toward sharing facts.
it has become clear recently that the work of certain astrophysicists has shown that comets aren`t dirty snowballs at all. they are plasma bodies. condensed pre-planetary matter, and that they are electromagnetic in nature, as is the rest of the universe. this flys in the face of the traditional newtonian gravitational (which we have no definition of.) model which has to make comets snowballs, otherwise the math doesn`t work.
who is right?

12 comments:

anu said...

Hi Dr Alistair,

I am feeling the pain pangs again really bad.

But i see that my craving for him is becoz of the power he has on himself which draws me to him. And i am telling this to me again and again. And even in the pain as i crave, i accept it and keep telling myself that i love me and when i am done with the cravings for him, i am still here for me. I am hoping to gain my trust and love in this processs.

It is the love which he gave me which draws me to him. I will give myself more love than anyone gave another, ever in this world. No matter what, i'm not leaving my side.

So i am wearing a lovely pink skirt and off to see a movie to amuse myself :-)

Enough of talk, it is time to demonstrate my love for myself.

My fondest regards to you.

dr.alistair said...

well, the love that you recieved from this man was different from what your soul needs to grow. the ego responds to this adoration and swells....but there is no growth. in this state there is stagnation and, as we have seen, when it is withdrawn, how painful it can be.
building a foundation within that can choose to give and recieve love from the outside is where we can grow towards.....once we learn to accept ourselves first.
this doesn`t occur over night. the old feelings will rise and fall and with each visit you will gain new perspective on the distinctions between the old and the new you.
that`s what growth is. learning to see the difference.

anu said...

Hi Dr Alistair,

Thank you for your valuable feedback. You were right on the target as it seems i've managed to screw it up all over again - i mean, screw up my mind.

Dr? why can't it be easy. Why is it so difficult. I went to the mall and ended up seeing couples and ended up calling this guy, only to hear half-hearted voice on the phone and an abrupt hang-up. Which made me feel worse. Then i've been trying to deal with it the whole night.

When i wake up today morning, i see an email from one of his gfs , the common friend (the one who accused me of writing ill-feelings about her in a mail which was actually a draft email in my inbox). This woman is writing to me that she has done nothing wrong and forgiven me for what i have done!!!

I am feeling sick in my stomach. Dr? why are these people torturing me like this. I am just an ordinary girl with no kidneys who is trying to live her balance few years on this planet.

I am sick of this stupid selfish ex and his gfs. I wish i could die. I am tired of them all

dr.alistair said...

making the phone call did stir up the feelings again. it a powerful mechanism. we see the feelings when t hey hurt. the trick is to do it to make yourself feel good at times you need to. it`s the same mechanism, different images. our thoughts can race off, at times, an seems as if they are seperate from us........this is part of the illusion that we must see beyond. once we see that we are doing it all, then we can begin to make better choices.

anu said...

I appreciate your insight Dr Alistair.

So making the phone call has triggerred all this. The feel-good did not last long, the price to pay for it was real high - peace of mind.

dr.alistair said...

you are begining to see the distinction........unconditional love for yourself includes the certain knowledge that you remember the pain caused by making a phone call out of desperation, loneliness, or what ever specific discomfort you were feeling.
you knew the moment you heard his voice that it was a mistake, and that all the emotions would come flooding back.......
these responses are stored at neurochemical level. we tend to fire the feelings off by thinking and also by the shapes our bodies make.
by dancing, or jumping up and down and laughing or just running until you can run no more and laughing you can fire off different neural signals that make you feel differently. yoga and tai chi are also powerful physical/spiritual engines for change........or simple wellness.
laughter.
running.
dancing.
smiling.
being in love with yourself.
choosing constructive ways of living.
your body knows the difference, et it teach you.
this morning it is the first time we get together to play soccer outside after the winter. it is a celebration. our spirits will open up in joy towards the sun. we will run and laugh and chase the ball and old friendships will be reunited. i`m going to take a camera.

anu said...

:-) Wow sounds great Dr Alistair.

How was your game?

dr.alistair said...

other than the fact that i forgot to take my camera it was wonderful. the sun was shining and everyone was smiling. ahhhhh, springtime and space to run. :-)

anu said...

:-))

anu said...

april sun
its raining yellow may flowers
slowly reclaiming my little joys in life:-)

dr.alistair said...

what we focus on becomes real. what we look at last is what we hit, 100% of the time. that is what out life is made of. choose joyful things to look at.

anu said...

yes :-) Thank you Dr Alistair.

Kisss