when i speak to people, whether individually or in groups, there is a period of time where there is discomfort. this discomfort is driven by expectation on the part of myself or others that there needs to be an outcome or a process where there is going to be tests or evaluations or other discomforts or whatever other paranoias a person can construct. then something wonderful happens. everything starts to flow and people open up and thier discomforts disappear and things start to work and people smile.
then changes can occur.
when i speak of my true feelings about things that are important is when the paranoia disappears.
i have learned to talk to myself that way too.
and i smile.
and the answers seem to just become so much clearer.