Tuesday, July 04, 2006

independance day.

independance day. that`s what i`ve always liked about the americans. freedom.......the value of being unbound by restrictions and tyrany and oppression.
here`s a thought. what do you want to be free from in this next year? what binds and restricts you so that you chafe and blister and become sore?
what if you could just walk away?
would you?
you need to now more than ever on this day of celebrating independance.
god bless america and all that is free wherever in the world you may be reading this right now.


anu said...

How does one get freedom from acknowledgement?

dr.alistair said...

i will assume for the purposes of this post that by acknowledgement that you mean acceptance by others.
to become less dependant on acceptance from others one needs to look to one`s self for that acceptance. once you do that, unconditionally, then what others say or do merely becomes conversation for you to accept or reject.

anu said...

Thanks Dr.

While i was away from your blog and many others too for the last three months. I've been working on myself, sitting here in my own little world, alone..listing to myself, talking to myself and i can feel myself in a transition mode right now. I'm changing. I'm probably connecting with myself.

I dont seem to have the pain of the break-up anymore. I am not feeling despearte and restless for ex anymore. Infact he called up a couple of weeks ago, making an offer to work with him (doing his financial models) for some great money and i've turned him down. He still calls anyways, though i cannot connect to him and i hardly talk during the conversations.

Now but i've a new problem. I'm getting desperate and restless in a different way. I want to be hugged and kissed and loved and i want some real romance in my life. And i suspect i have that desperate look in my eyes.

It is okay to want all this, isnt it Dr? I'm in my late twenties and if i dont want it now, then when will i want it? But again, i dont quite like this becoz i still feel this is focussing outside.

What are your thoughts on all of this?

dr.alistair said...

it is perfectly normal to have feelings of needing hugs, kisses, etc. this is the reason why there are so many of us on the planet. the natural desire for being together and all that comes with that.
allow it to happen and you will find a new peace, one of companionship with someone who shares values and goals and cares about themselves enough to not play games.
some unattached time spent with people you like.........the rest will happen automatically.

anu said...

Thank you Dr Alistair for your insights. I appreciate them. :)